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Random memories come back to me as I navigate the world of estrangement. I can honestly say that we never saw estrangement coming. The hurt is so deep because we would never cut one of our children off in a relationship sense. We loved them from birth! Back in 2014 I spent the day crafting…
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Adult children these days get butt hurt and cannot get over it. I blame myself and my husband for coddling our oldest son and making him think the world revolves around him. We didn’t allow him to have confrontation and learn that it is part of life. Well, I thought we did as not all…
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It’s very hard to go no contact back. Very hard. It is easier than getting nothing but hate filled rhetoric back, however. The hate really takes the wind out of your sails. The last text that I sent to my son was simply to tell him that I love him. I got nothing but hatred…
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When I woke up this morning, I wondered if my son remembered all of the Easters we had as a happy family. I would wait until they went to sleep before putting their Easter baskets together. I loved doing this each and every year. Just as much as I enjoyed coloring eggs every year. Sometimes…
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Happy Easter to everyone! Easter is a hard time to cope with an estranged adult child and grandchildren, isn’t it? I remember all of the wonderful Easter traditions our family has had over the years. Every Easter, we did the resurrection eggs as part of our Good Friday and Holy Saturday traditions. The boys loved…
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It’s okay to be pissed off with your adult estranged children. I was a good mom. I was far from perfect, but I was not abusive. NEWS FLASH: there are no perfect parents. Unless you are referring to Mary and Joseph, of course. When you do the best you can and are not abusive to…
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We always imagined retirement would be filled with time with our grandkids. I was a stay-at-home mom who went back to work when the boys went off to college. After giving up my military career to raise them, I needed to find a new career once they were out of the house. By then, I…
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I read a blog post from 2020: The Mother Side of the Coin. She’s a mom and a family therapist. She is also an estranged mother. She writes what so many of us feel after raising our kids in loving homes. A quote that hits home for me: “In my story, I had to learn…
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I’m not an expert on how estrangement unfolds in other families, but I’ve observed some patterns that seem to resonate with many parents I’ve encountered. One notable pattern is that estranged children often channel their anger in different directions. For instance, they might be upset with you one day and then turn their ire on…
Empty Nest, Full Heart, Lost Connections 